When you plan on trying or creating something new, do you sometimes feel daunted, or overwhelmed? Do you start playing “What if” games where you envision in detail every conceivable scenario in which things could go wrong, to the point where you start to believe that they probably will go wrong?
Yeah. That’s totally a habit, and a mind game. The good news is that both habits and minds can change and be replaced with better ways of doing, being, and thinking. (Click to tweet this!)
So I’d like to ask you: When’s the last time you let a new thing be easy?
I mentioned my love for public speaking in last week’s newsletter. When I first thought about speaking in front of a room full of people, my brain immediately went to The Best Speech Ever — a TED talk, with slides, in which I am wearing killer boots and the audience adores me. But my actual speaking gigs so far have been tech-free (the only reason I’ll ever use slides in a talk is for sight gags. True story). My boots were cute, but not killer (they’re on my “to buy” list for fall, though). And, I mostly winged it. I even bombed once, like, whoa. I do outlines on colorful note cards to corral my brain, but I don’t rehearse over and over, I just show up, pay attention to the people who are there, and go with it. It all flows, it all comes to me pretty easily, and I absolutely love it.
I had a speaking gig this week for a local networking group of female biz owners. I’m as excited as I was honored to be asked. I knew what I was going to talk about, but hadn’t yet created my outline last week when a pretty bad headache struck. I got a cool washcloth, put it over my eyes and laid down to do some deep breathing. Not even two minutes in and I had my outline. I love you, Toni’s brain.
Now, I do plan on getting more training as a public speaker; totally on my “level up” list for this fall. But I’m not holding back even though I don’t have it all figured out, I’m honoring my natural gifts, and I’m having a blast.
Secret sauce, babies.
Recently, my friend Mike and I started a podcast called Serious Business. It is not at all serious and has little, if anything, to do with business. That’s how Mike and I roll. We’d talked about collaborating somehow over the years, and this year we just decided to do this. We knew little to nothing about podcasting or editing, got my awesome husband-the-former-radio-producer on board to be our editor, and we just started recording. No detailed road map, no actual experience, nothing but a desire to have fun and share our wandering creative brains.
Soon after (like, literally, after Episode One), our friend Jeremy Fuksa invited us to join his podcasting network, Mistit Radio. Both Mike and I asked him a ton of questions and immediately learned that Jeremy has it all figured out and then some, and is a generous guy who operates under a collaborative/creative model (as opposed to a competitive/scarcity one) that appeals to both of us on a deep level. Easy. So I’m psyched to announce that both the Serious Business and the still-in-the-works Do What Lights You Up podcasts are joining the Misfit Radio network!
A couple of brief thoughts to distill this into something you can use:
- Cultivating ease instead of struggle/worry/what-ifs involves three elements:
- Honoring your natural gifts and desires and
- Taking action in some form, without waiting for perfect conditions and
- Paying attention to what happens when you act — are you hitting roadblocks at every turn, or are doors opening and is positive feedback flowing to you?
- Your actions should be designed to generate results and not simply be busywork.
- ‘Easy’ doesn’t equal ‘effortless.’ You’ve still gotta put in the hours to make things happen, whether lifestyle/career change, writing a novel, or starting and running a podcast (or a podcast network).
- If you’re gonna put in the hours, you might as well spend them doing something that feels fun, that feels like coming home, that feels right in your gut.
I’d like to ask: How can you invite some ease into your life and work, starting today? Post a comment below and tell me your plan and what action you’re going to take.
Thanks for reading, and have an EASY time this week!